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So what do THEY think about it?

To hell with what they think!! I simply admire people who base their life on this principle. But easier said than done. Yes, I belong to the unfortunate other half who are not so brave. It’s a routine that sort of grows on you. An uncontrollable need to please people as Monica (of F.R.I.E.N.D.S fame) says.
I have noticed how this chivalrous segment sails through life even in troubled waters without taking life too seriously. I understand that that is the secret- Don’t take life too seriously. It’s only when everything has to be perfect and you want to get noticed and appreciated, that things get ditzy.  After all, the world is not a perfect place.
Being self-conscious and crunched up all the time is another common trait. That’s when everything wrong about you come into focus and the soldier that’s confidence takes a big blow.  When so much is going on, what me and my fellow miserables don’t realize is that the people who point fingers are in no way better than you are. If anything they are worse and believe me AGE is not anything to go by. Even at 60 and in their words having seen and experienced the world, people can be pretty dumb. And it’s their arrogance that makes them find fault with us. When this realization dawns, we stop being harsh on ourselves. Also most of the time people don’t really have the time or inclination to delve into what is happening in your life. If they do, it is just because they have too much time on their hands… Jobless you may say.
I agree it will take time to get used to the idea. A technique that I have adopted after much deliberation is to RELAX. Some relationships may require you to prove yourself but that should be in a healthy way. Otherwise it becomes plain pressure and when things start turning sour, that’s the time to relax because some things and people just won’t change. Like my favorite person always says “our happiness is our choice”.
I am still trying to immune myself from the negativity of others. I still have the “L” sign on the vehicle that’s my life. And when the brakes don’t seem to work I think to myself, “This too shall pass”.

Comments

Poornima said…
way to go girl.. love your writing.. always have.. :) can't wait to read more frm you.. :) mwah.. :)
Unknown said…
to tell you the truth poorni, i read your blog and thats when i decided may be i should post things i've written too. so really thanks to you!!!
Justin Paul said…
Loved it even more!!!!...though not chivalrous, we too have challenged authority and have trivialized situations when the world wanted us to scrutinize it..we have traveled the laid back lane rather on the fast lane of life..so i guess we to fall more or less in to that category of people who really don't give a damn about the way in which the World thinks...
Impressive writing Amy...keep all guns blazing...good job yet again..

suri
anna said…
'I still have the “L” sign on the vehicle that’s my life. And when the brakes don’t seem to work I think to myself, “This too shall pass”.'

I absolutely love this bit!!! :)
Unknown said…
@Suri thanks once again and i so hope you are right!

@Anna Thanks babe. Hope you like the ones that are to come!
geozzak said…
Loved this peice Amy ;)
Kudos to ya!!

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